So, yesterday I talked a little bit about how the simple life in Macintosh might be really enjoyable. This got me thinking about the simple life in general. Is the simple life better? Let's investigate.
Well, first, I think it depends on how you define "the simple life." In this case, I would define it as lifestyle where you don't have a lot because you don't need a lot. Yes, your basic needs are met, and you have a few close friends, and a good family. You don't have a big flashy job with lots of power and respect, you don't have to "network," and you don't go to parties with a hundred of your closest acquaintances. People don't give you things just for being you. Most people outside your community don't know who you are. But you make a decent living and you like what you do.
These lifestyle differences - and all the ones in between - have been on my mind a lot in recent months, as I've been making the decision to become a librarian. I've had many moments of doubt, where I wondered if maybe I should go to law school instead. Not because I have any passion for law, of course, but because I'm afraid of being a poor librarian. Now, I don't consider myself a very materialistic person, but it's still something I worry about. I want to be able to provide for myself and my family, and I don't want to have to count on my husband (if I get married) to do it. I mean, what if I decide to marry a teacher?
And then sometimes I think "Okay, I don't want that many things now, but what I do later on?" What if I become one of those women who wants expensive couches and fancy rugs? Now, I really hope I don't, because I feel like those people are just trying to impress their "friends," and real friends don't need to be impressed. Don't get me wrong - I want to live in nice, decent conditions. For example, I would like to, at some point, own pots and pans that won't give me cancer, or perhaps upgrade to nice bookshelves from the ones I have now (white, water-stained ones I bought off craigslist. They used to be in someone's garage. And he used to keep chemicals one them.) But I think I could live with it if I never did. But what if I don't feel that way in ten years?
Of course, there are expensive things in life that are necessary, such as health care and homes, but we're going to assume that my librarian job will give me healthcare, and as for the home - I don't really know. (I mean, it's not librarians don't make ANY money.)
And then I also wonder about my children. They will want things - children always do - and I will want to give them those things. What then? (Of course, children also want their parents around, something I hear doesn't always happen when you're a lawyer.)
Sometimes the stress of wondering about all these things gets a little overwhelming.
In fact, here's a (sort of) funny story about one day at the library when, while thinking about all of this, I (sort of) had a break down:
So, as I said, I was at the library where I work. I was making copies of some historical documents, and I had literally hundreds of pages to copies. So I had a lot of time to think. I was also already feeling frustrated and tired, even before I started thinking. The copy machine kept jamming, and I hadn't gotten much sleep the night before because my neighbors had been partying on their porch. (No joke.) So there I was, standing at the copy machine, and I asked myself, "Do I really want to do this for the rest of my life?" Then all the questions from above flooded through my mind, plus some others. Like:
Is this really the best thing I can do with my education? Don't I want to get paid hundreds of thousands of dollars, instead of some modest amount? It didn't help that, the night before, I had been scrolling though one of those Occupy Wall Street tumblrs, with all the people holding up their stories. What if I become one of those people, I thought? Then the copier jammed again, making that awful noise of crushing paper, and that was the last straw.
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I quickly gathered up all the papers, ran out into the staff bathroom (which, mercifully, is a one-person type thing), and started to cry. Then I called my dad. I told him all my worries, how I was wondering if I should go to law school, how I was worried I would never be able to eat again, etc, etc.
After I had calmed down a little, and after we had talked through some of the bigger problems at hand, he started telling me about my grandpa. His father was, he told me, a man who almost never wanted anything. It wasn't a statement or anything. He just didn't. He was just that kind of person. His wife, my grandma, apparently used to get mad at him because he never wanted anything. And then my father told me that he thought this made my grandfather the richest man in the world. A man is rich, he said, if he feels good about what and how he is doing. A man is rich if he is happy with the things he has.
(He also morbidly pointed out that every single person on the planet right now is richer than Steve Jobs, because we are all still breathing.)
That is what I think of as the simple life: Being happy with what you have.
Of course, you could say that it's naive and idealistic to think that you can be happy without money. And obviously you need some money. You need to eat, and it's nice to be able to go on vacations and buy a new computer.
But I also think that sometimes, as Tupac (the great philosopher of our time) said, more money means more problems. The more you have, the more you have to lose, and so the more energy and stress you devote to protecting yourself and your assets and investing that money, etc. etc, instead of focusing on yourself and your family.
Plus, my psychology classes tell me that people generally get used to whatever level they're at, as long as their basic needs are provided for. That is, if you're rich, at first it's exciting, but then it's just your life. And you get used to doing rich people things, like eating expensive meals, so you keep working to maintain that lifestyle, insteading of working less like maybe you promised yourself you would once you made your first million.
Then again, does having money, or working in a field like law, necessairly mean that you can't live the "simple life?" Does having money automatically make you materilasitic? I don't think it's always the case, but I think it happens a lot. In order to survive in one of those careers, you have to be dedicated to your job. More time at your job, less time with your family. Plus, if everyone around you is living a flashy lifestyle, you might start to want that too.
Anyway, I hate to make such generalizations, and I don't want to pretend that I know everything about the lawyer lifestyle, or even what I'm calling the "simple" lifestyle. Maybe the question I'm really asking here is, what makes for a good life? Either way, gross generalizations and pretending to be in expert in things are what blogging is all about! So I'm doing it!
Let's end with this quote from Tolstoy, made famous by the book,
Into the Wild (which is a great book):
"I have lived through much, and now I think I have found what is needed for happiness. A quiet secluded life in the country, with the possibility of being useful to people to whom it is easy to do good, and who are not accustomed to have it done to them; then work which one hopes may be of some use; then rest, nature, books, music, love for one's neighbor--such is my idea of happiness. And then, on top of all that, you for a mate, and children perhaps--what can more the heart of man desire?"
What do we think? Agree? Disagree?
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PS. Whoa - this was a little heavy, right? What, did you think we were all jokes here at See...er, I mean, Julie's Blog? (Man, this blog needs a name). Well, we're not! BUT this weekend is going to be all about the funny posts, posts full of wit and
inneudo and self-deprecation. Get excited! See you tomorrow.